Knowing love
The most important things are not about knowing, but believing.
In a world engulfed in an obsession with the truth, people can forget that facts are not all that matters. I am one of them. I am one who seeks the truth. I want to know why. To me, science is a practice that is critical to understanding, and eventually knowing many things. I used to think science could determine the truth of everything. But I was so, very wrong.
Maybe that is why trust, to me was something that had to be earned. I’m not talking about simple trust, but the kind of trust of a person that if something ever happened, you know that the person would not betray you, or let you down. I have few close friends, and I treasure these friendships dearly.
Yet, on one hand, this is something that cannot be scientifically backed. Which brings me on to my main point. There are very major, major issues that cannot be backed by science. Like religion, or more specifically, higher beings. And more dear to my heart, love.
How will I know that years down the road, my feelings for my dearest would not change? That my feelings now are not a mere rush of hormones? Or the same is true for her? My family has been there for me for my entire life, and at the very least, statistically, probability-wise, scientifically, I can depend on them.
But for someone I have been with for over two and a half years, how do I know we are meant for each other? Having shared the some of the best (and the worst) of times in those years, and having been there for each other may be a good estimate for the near future, but how does one know if two people are meant for each other for an entire lifetime?
The truth is… I don’t. But you know what? I believe that we are. And because I do, I know we are.
aw…..how sweet…=) and how reflective. I only hope you keep up the spirit! Jinda is one lucky gal.
David c said this on July 7th, 2006 at 2:09 pm
Let me throw you a curve ball. People change and how would you know you are meant for each other when right now you do not know what the other person will become in years to come?
(O_o) nickpan said this on July 12th, 2006 at 12:21 am
So are you saying that when people change, they may no longer meant for each other? To me, when two people are meant to be together, it is either by fate or by choice, of which the latter requires the belief I talked about. The changes would present themselves as a challenge to a relationship, and this very belief would help those in the relationship to survive it. The assumption made is that they would do the best in their utmost to correct any change for the relationship.
Without this belief and faith in a relationship, a person would surrender far more easily and be indulged in a more selfish manner, while placing the blame on the other to not cope with it when the change is within his/her own self.
If anything, this belief should not change. Changes in people can be managed and corrected if they truly believe in the relationship they are in, and reciprocy of the faith in each other and the relationship would ultimately help balance the give and take.
Not knowing how a person would change is not as important as believing that one is meant for the other, because to some extent, the belief would result in a subconscious proactive approach to managing any potential damage to the relationship as a result of changes in the individuals.
Chong Kwong Sheng said this on July 12th, 2006 at 12:51 am